Keep this open during sessions. All 5 frameworks at a glance.
| Stance | Behavior | Cost | Congruent Shift |
|---|---|---|---|
| Placating | Agree to avoid conflict | Resentment builds | "I hear you, and I also want to share..." |
| Blaming | Point fingers to control | Trust erodes | "Let's look at what happened and learn." |
| Super Reasonable | Hide behind logic/data | Connection lost | "I have the data — how does this feel to you?" |
| Irrelevant | Distract to avoid discomfort | Nothing resolved | "This is uncomfortable — let's stay with it." |
| Congruent | Authentic & present | Builds real trust | (Already there — stay grounded) |